Here is how I became an online Web Editor.

I learned to add stories and photos to an online page, spent hours in front of my computer trying to find the stories I needed so I could post them, learned what widgets are, and kept current with my colleagues’ blogs so I could add their  content daily.  Sound fun?

I learned  about “regions” on the Web Site and how to modify or edit other people’s stories know as “articles.”  Knowing about “default templates”  and “override” links were musts.

New lingo? I learned it quick.

I have new respect for Web Editors and online digital editors. They are intelligent, gentle, kind, helpful and are “can find anything” type of people.

I am a “semi-web” editor. I don’t have any of those above qualities but I know expert people who do.

My job as a “semi-editor” is to change out photos and content on three areas of the People Page on NewsOk. I thought it would be great fun to be the online editor of this page. Little did I know that after all my training I would still have trouble finding things and that I would sit for four hours last Thursday in front of my computer searching. I was so engrossed in my search that I was a no- show for my very favorite meeting.

To make the page look great, I added several wonderful bloggers to the area on the right side of the page. To balance the page and to prove that I had layout classes/training in the past, I added some video and some photos.

Then on my own desktop, I added all the telephone numbers and email addresses of the “real” online digital and web editors: Alan, Robb, Nick, Richard, Marcy, Renee and Paul. If you need anything that has to do with the People Page, call me, and I can find the Web Editors fast!

Again, they can find anything. They have been able to add photos to stories when I could not, walk me through the entire process every day for two months, find the daily newspaper articles in the “regions” and size photos to fit the space. They are awesome!  They are unsung heroes of the digital world!

And if you want to read my “semi-page,” click here….http://www.newsok.com/life/people.

Actually, it is called a sub-page, under the Life category of NewsOk.  Today, I have featured fashion.  Both stories are from the MOOD section of NewsOk. One is on nautical fashions by Fashion Editor Linda Miller and the one is on jewelry made from fishing lures by Heather Warlick-Moore.  Great stuff!

Read those “articles” on the People Page and call Web Editor Nick Tankersley if there is a mistake. He can fix it. I probably cannot.

Party decorations included vintage silver from the Delta Gamma collection holding pink and white  flowers and early day sorority pictures. (Photos by Kate Stanton).

Delta Gammas were in Norman to celebrate the 137^th year of Delta Gamma.

Members of the Norman Alumnae chapter were hostesses at the Oklahoma Memorial Union on the University of Oklahoma campus. Guests enjoyed a musical selection from the DG choir, a video and an awards presentation ranging from the “Most Congenial New Member” to the 50-year members.

Centerpieces were vintage silver vases and bowls from the Delta Gamma house which held pink and white tulips and roses and there were framed photos of past events. Each guest received a set of Delta Gamma postcards.

Kim Rieger and Kate Stanton were in charge of decorations.

Committee members included Julianne Hill, Karlie McLaughlin, Aleesha Ogden, Stanton, Rieger, Shannon Winters, Michelle Carbone, Amanda Holloway, Heather Puckett and Shawn Singer.

Flowers in a silver cup.

Also on the table were programs and roses.

Donita Phillips,  Julianne Hill and Jane Ratliff were at the brunch.

Valerie Naifeh, Gina Bennett, Maryann Johndrow, Lori Tyler
, front;  Megan Moore, Laura Watts, Emily McCann
, middle, Sheryl Pribyl, Theresa Bozalis, Jana Evans, back, were at the dinner in the home of Susan and Kyle Chambers. Photos provided.

Mary Ann Johndrow purchased a  Mystery Dinner at the Go Red event last year. She was hostess to friends in the home of Susan and Kyle Chambers.

Valerie Naifeh and Laura Watts won the mystery game which was set up like a clue game in various rooms of the house.

Kyle Chambers told the history about his home (the former Dolese mansion) which is located in Crown Heights and Susan Chambers served dinner and appetizers that she cooked herself including salmon with salsa, beef tenderloin, brandy ice in chocolate goblets.

Gina Bennett and Megan Moore were at the party.

Jana Evans, Lori Tyler, Megan Moore, Gina Bennett, Maryann Johndrow looked for mystery dinner clues during the evening.

Rhonda Bratton and Maryann Johndrow were at the event.

Linda Miller, Lillie-Beth Brinkman, Paige Dillard and Grayson Cook filmed and produced this birthday shout out. I love it! HFW

Parties Extra!…20-40-60 Question….from an avid Oklahoman and a  NewsOk reader.

YOU ASK…WE ANSWER…YOU DECIDE

QUESTION: My husband and I recently celebrated the birth of our first child. For our families, this is the first grandchild. Everyone is showering affection on our child, and we appreciate all the support, gifts and love.

The problem: too much family time. Our relatives – both in-town and out-of-town – are coming to our house without asking if we have plans.

Some stay the night. Others just stop by for the evening. I’m feeling smothered but I have no idea how to tell them this without hurting their feelings. I want to be nice but firm.

I’m really looking forward to your answer because we’re 20-somethings dealing with 40- and 60-somethings.

Callie’s Answer: Be straight with them! Tell them that you’re exhausted (which I’m sure you both are) and that you appreciate all the good intentions of everyone wanting to come see the child, but, it is too crazy right now!

Tell your mom you would like to have a “sip and see” at your chosen date so everyone can come see your new “bundle of joy!” That way there is a certain date for everyone to come and not just stop by at their convenience!

Lillie-Beth’s Answer: How much fun (and exhausting) to have a new baby! It’s even better that you have so many wanting to celebrate with you and that you acknowledge their joy in addition to your own. However, it’s OK for you to set boundaries with your family members and friends.

I remember that stress of trying to balance the needs of my littlest ones and my immediate family while trying to let others share our happiness.

At one point, when some well-wishers dropped by unexpectedly, I think we accepted a gift at the door with a big smile and a “thank you” and shut it without inviting the people in.

Rude? Maybe. But at some point, you have to let people know they need to coordinate with you before coming to see the baby. You’re a new mom and you and your husband need your rest as much as the baby does.

Tell people it’s not a good time and then suggest a better one. Try to ward off potential out-of-town guests in advance. If you set the boundaries once, then keeping them will get easier. Explain why sincerely, apologetically and with a smile while letting them know you’d love to see them another time.

Your overly joyous loved ones will still love you — and your baby — the next time.

Helen’s Answer: Most people know that new parents are trying really hard to get acquainted with their new baby and need time to themselves. It is ok if a family member calls ahead and asks how they can help the new parents, but just to show up is inexcusable. It is time to set some limits for everyone in the family.

Gently tell all the relatives that the baby and parents need their rest, particularly since both parents work. Tell them that you and your husband are in agreement (be sure you are) that when someone wants to visit, they should call and ask if it is convenient. If it is not convenient, then tell them to come another day.

For the out-of-towners, they should be checking to see if they are welcome. You certainly should not have to put them up if the baby is sick or you have other plans or just want some alone time with the baby.

All people need guidelines and it is very important that you, very graciously, suggest them.

My husband’s Answer: Put them to work. Tell them that they were so sweet to come and help and that the oven and refrigerator needs cleaning and the kitchen needs scrubbing and since you are still tired from being up with the baby at night, you have been too tired to clean.

They can do all sorts of chores, but don’t hurt their feelings by telling them to go. They won’t be so free with their time on the next visit if you have a plan for them.

Connell Branan and Bebe MacKellar thank committee members at the party. (Photo by Helen Ford Wallace).

Connell and Cliff Branan entertained Beaux Arts Ball committee members for cocktails and dinner in their home to celebrate the successful 2009 Ball. The November event benefited the Oklahoma City Museum of Art.

Connell Branan was Ball chairman.

Co-chairman Bebe MacKellar gave the chairman with a silver engraved picture frame.

Guests included Bebe and Bruce MacKellar, Mary and Colin FitzSimons,  Anne and Brian Henderson, Barbara and Bud Beeler, Susan and Mike McPherson, Leslie and Rick Russell,  Dana and Matt Price, Margo and Harper Ward, Lee and Barry Murphy, Lisa and Mark Pierce and Shirley and Pete Everest.

Mary FitzSimons, Bebe MacKellar, Libby Payne, Connell Branan celebrate the 2009 Beaux Arts Ball. (Photo by David Faytinger).

Parties Extra!....20-40-60 Etiquette Question and Answers...From a NewsOk reader.

YOU ASK…WE ANSWER….YOU DECIDE

Question: Do you always address an older person or higher-up professional with Mr. Mrs. or Miss and their last name until they specify otherwise? Or do you use first names immediately when introduced?

When do you use only a person’s first name?  When do you use Ms.?

Callie’s Answer: I am usually good at using Mr. or Mrs. but I do slip. Most of the time the older or higher- up professional will correct me and tell me to call them by their first name.

With my friends’ parents, I still use Mr. or Mrs., unless they tell me otherwise. I use Ms. when I do not know if they are married or not. It is usually the general introduction when neither is known.

Lillie-Beth’s Answer: For me, it depends on the situation and whom I’m meeting. If it’s a casual setting, usually I call the person by their first name; if it’s someone older than I am (or traditional), I usually start out with “Mrs.” or “Mr.” (or Ms. when the person is divorced, like I am). It seems like these days, everyone is so casual with each other and on a first-name basis right away. It’s easier for me to answer this question as it pertains to my children. In introducing my children to adults, I always start out with the formal Mrs. or Mr. (Last Name) to show respect. Sometimes the adults tell my children to call them by their first names, and after that, it’s OK. I also follow my mother’s tradition for my kids and have them address my close friends with a “Miss” in front of their first names, like “Miss April” or “Miss Elaine.” I like the distinction between children and adults, although I’m also often in the minority.

One of my favorite moments as a young bride was when a special group of my mother’s friends, whom I had addressed as “Mrs. So-and-So” my whole life, told me to call them by their first names.  Since they were close to my mom, I felt close to them, too, and it was nice to finally be “initiated” into their friendship on a first-name basis. So here’s to Nancy, Kay, Kirk, Lynn, Barbara and Marilyn, as well as Miss Lela, Miss Ann, Miss Jeary, Miss Gerre, and more.

Another note: Miss Manners, author and etiquette columnist for the Washington Post who is also known as Judith Martin, prefers that people don’t start out on a first-name basis. “There is no such thing as instant intimacy,” she writes in her book, MIss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior,” updated in 2005.

Helen’s Answer: Today, when people suggest or request that I use their first names, I do. I am sensitive to using first names of people who I have just met and feel like I should use caution and be more a little more formal on that first encounter. But, at my age, I generally use people’s first names immediately. Maybe a great-grandmother/father gets a Mr. or Mrs. out of me.

My children were taught to use the Mr. and Mrs. titles, unless that person told them to use their first name. We threw in the southern idea of using the  title of  ” Miss”  and the first name with close friends. .  In the professional world, “Ms.” is hard for me to say because my generation of people used the “Miss” title for unmarried women.  When I introduce people, I might say, “Mr. Thompson, this is Mr. Jones,” using rank to determine who is introduced first. In a social situation, gender determines who I introduce to whom:” Miss Thompson, this is Mr. Jones,” or “Linda, this is Tom.”

I use this rule for introductions:  “Mrs./Mr.”  older person, this is “Mrs./Mr.”  younger person.

(Callie Gordon, a college sophomore,  is a debutante this year and has been in many new social situations recently. Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a former  debutante and currently the assistant features editor for The Oklahoman. Helen Wallace has written a social column for The Oklahoman for many years and has been on various local Ball committees.

This group does not always agree (via age differences), but they ALL see the need for proper behavior.)

Ask a specific etiquette question and you will get three answers…Then you decide for yourself how you would handle the situation. The answers have information for every age range….Callie is 20-something; Lillie-Beth is 40-something, and Helen is 60-something.

Please email us with your questions and be sure to follow us on Facebook, Twitter and daily blogs. We will try to answer your etiquette questions  weekly on the Parties Extra! blog. Sometimes we will ask other people for their opinions.     Look for us!

helen.wallace@cox.net…lbrinkman@opubco.com… calliezok3@aol.com

American Lung Association of Oklahoma

The American Lung Association of Oklahoma ” Flight for Air- A Lung Health” luncheon will be held on Tuesday, February 2rd, at Oklahoma City Golf and Country Club.  Luncheon chairman, Debbie Yoeckel, and co-chairman, Elaine Levy, have a fabulous morning planned with spritzers and a Chinese raffle.

Keynote speaker, Kathryn Joosten of Desperate Housewives, will talk with the group about her battle with lung cancer.

Tickets can be purchased by calling the American Lung Association offices at 405-748-4674 at extension 203 or online at www.breathehealthy.org/okcluncheon

Sandy and Stewart Meyers, Caroline Listul, Heather and Bob Ross were at the reception in the Ross home. (Photo by David Faytinger).

The Kennedy Center touring cast was entertained at dinner in the home of Heather and Bob Ross.

This year the 13 young actors performed “Chasing George Washington” at the Putnam City North Theater auditorium.

Guests included Sandy and Stewart Myers, Carrie and Ryan Leonard, Annie Bohannon, Mike and Edith Laird, Jim and Beth Tolbert, Homer and Ramona Paul, Susie Wilson, Bill and Kristy Whitsitt, Bill and Lil Ross, Penny and John McCaleb, Jerrianne Altshuler, Linda and Duke Ligon, Barbara and Ralph Thompson, Mark and Beverly Funke, Linda and Steve Garrett.

Next year, the group hopes to have The Kennedy Center’s “Knuffle Bunny”. The actors who are from throughout the country travel with the play for a year to different communities. Usually 10,000 Oklahoma City public and private school children see the play.

Brecken Cash celebrates his first birthday. (Photos by Helen Ford Wallace).

Kirsten and Ross Cash were hosts for a birthday party for their son, Brecken Cash, who just turned one. Aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents and siblings were guests. A cake with blue icing honored the young boy who has three sisters.

Brecken has a great time at his birthday as his dad and his sisters help with the gifts.