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20-40-60 Etiquette—Should we just sing the right words?
QUESTION: We are definitely all in for OU football. For several years now, people are singing the Star Spangled Banner by replacing “Home of The Brave” with “Home of the Sooners.” This is certainly not appropriate, but how do we get the message across to students and fans that it shows absolutely no respect to anybody to sing our national anthem like that? I think the song should be sung as written.
CALLIE’S ANSWER: I see your point that this is inappropriate. No one is trying to offend you though. The loud ‘bang’ and everyone screaming “SOONERS” at the top of their lungs… what a great atmosphere! I love my country, and I also love my Sooners! I am sorry that you are offended. It is not intentional.
LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: The yelling of the word “Sooners!” during the National Anthem has bothered me at games, too, but the more university officials have tried to call attention to this insensitive and inappropriate form of school pride, the more defiant the yellers have become. I don’t think it’s possible to explain why it’s a problem in order to make certain people quit doing it — the university has already tried to tackle that issue and has been ignored. Last year, despite messages on the giant board in the stadium asking fans to respect our heroes, some fans still altered the anthem’s word on both 9/11 and during OU’s game against the U.S. Air Force.
The Oklahoman sports columnist Berry Tramel addressed the issue in the newspaper and online at NewsOK last year with little success.
“The song is … about honoring the nation and the sacrifice our military has made,” Tramel wrote last year. “We have had perilous fighting. Rockets have produced red glare. Bombs have burst in air. You have every right to yell ‘Sooners.” Just know that when you do, you’re disrespecting the brave.”
Yes, this great nation is home to the Sooners as well as the brave, and there are plenty of special people who fit both categories. But consider your question and this column another attempt to “get the message across” to the minority of fans who keep replacing “brave” with “Sooners”: Let the Sooners have their football game, and let the deserving, brave heroes who fight for our freedoms, including the right to free speech, have their moment in the spotlight with that song.
HELEN’S ANSWER: We should always be respectful when singing the National Anthem. It is no longer funny to listen to fans yelling at the end of of it (and I did it too, before it was called to my attention that is was disrespectful.) It seems to me that last year when OU President David L. Boren and OU Coach Bob Stoops asked the fans to be respectful and to use the words as written, we should have listened to them.
I even heard the students say that they hope the fans will get rid of “Home of the Sooners” tag at the end of the song because it is just bad manners for other schools to have to listen to such disrespect from our school. “Home of the Brave” needs to be sung loud and clear.
GUEST’S ANSWER: Bebe MacKellar, local community leader and volunteer: I agree that it is disrespectful. When this started I thought it was strange and was shocked at how the words seemed to be “rewritten”. I am not sure if other schools across the country do this plugging in their team name also. I do remember an announcement asking people to please say “Home of the Brave” instead of “Home of the Sooners”. Maybe another announcement needs to be made. In the meantime I would continue to sing the correct words and hope your neighbors in the stadium follow your lead.
Elaine Reneau honored at a tabletop shower
Brenna See, Jessica Garoutte, Anne Heatly, Leigh Hefner, Kate Chapman, Erika Braver, Abby Lawrence, Kate Newman, Simone Taylor, front; Rachel Brown, Elaine Reneau, back, were at the party for Elaine Reneau. (Photos by David Faytinger).
A tabletop shower honored Elaine Reneau. She and Christopher Anderson will be married in October.
Hostesses were Lucinda Huffman, Nancy Law, Leslie Samara, Gayla Stapleton and Mary Kay Samis in the Samis home. They gave the bride-to-be a large salad bowl and serving piece.
Among the guests were Gloria Duffner, Ann Reneau Asbury, Danette McCorkle, Margo Ward and Avery Ward, Rachel and Tracey Brown, Anne and Cindy Heatly, Beth Hawkins, Donna Cornelison.
Mary Kay Samis, Gayla Stapleton, Mary Reneau, Nancy Law, Lucinda Huffman, Leslie Samara, Claire Anderson were in the hostess group for the party.
Jim Vallion helps clear out Doel Reed/OSU property in Taos
Jim Vallion clears the grounds in Taos. (Photo provided).
Jim Vallion, owner of Trochta’s Flowers, spent two weeks in Taos, New Mexico, working on the Doel Reed Center For The Arts property. He worked on the grounds in preparation of the upcoming renovations and remodeling of the Center which was established in 2009 as part of Oklahoma State University’s College of Arts and Sciences for summer programs.
The family property was given to OSU in 2006 by the late Martha Reed, daughter of Dole Reed, and includes 11/2 acres of land with two century-old adobe homes and Reed’s personal studio.
The crew of workers cleared out 28 tons of debris.
The late Dole Reed was a professor and the first head of the OSU Art Department. He reached international fame as an artist and printmaker. His specialty was aquatint.
Cathy Keating honored at reception
Betty Price, Carrie Leonard with baby Mary Frances Leonard, Cathy Keating, Donna Nigh, Nancy Leonard, Judy Love enjoy the party honoring Cathy Keating. (Photo by David Faytinger.)
Cathy Keating was the honoree at a “Ladies’ Celebration” in the home of Judy Love. Co-hostesses were Kris Frankfurt, Jane Gamble, Nancy Leonard, Sandy Meyers, Polly Nichols and Gayle Semtner. They invited friends to celebrate the upcoming induction of Keating into the Oklahoma Hall of Fame.
Bouquets of lilies, roses and hydrangeas decorated the buffet table. On the menu was sliced pork tenderloin and chicken and assorted cheeses, dips and desserts.
Guests wrote congratulatory notes for a memory book.
Guests included Ann Hargis, Holly Healey, Lela Sullivan, Linda Lambert, Betty Crow, Teresa Rose, Nancy Ellis, Gene Barth, Sarah Vermillion, Penny McCaleb, Lana Lopez, Frances Chandler, Ann Butler, Aulena Gibson, Jeaneen Naifeh, Deby Snodgrass, Meg Salyer, Jo Carol Cameron, Terri Cooper, Brenda McDaniel, Kirk Hammons and Kaye Cook.
Nancy Ellis and Linda Lambert arrive at the celebration. (Photo by Helen Ford Wallace.)
Holly Healey and Polly Nichols talk at the event. (Photo by Helen Ford Wallace.)
YWCA party thanks volunteers and features committee sign up
Rita Moore, Kris Frankfurt, Charlotte Richels, Lela Sullivan were among the hostesses for the YWCA party. (Photo by David Faytinger).
Barbara and Roger Simons were hosts for a party to talk about the YWCA Building Hope campaign set for next spring. Co-hosts were Tricia Everest, David Hudiburg, Charlotte Richels, Kris Frankfurt, Rita Moore and Lela Sullivan.
The party was to thank all the volunteers who have offered to help the YWCA to raise funds to build a larger (85 bed) emergency shelter and to re-purpose the current shelter into an extended stay residence.
Sign up sheets for various committees were available and hostess Lela Sullivan noted “there is always room for more volunteers.”
Members of the advisory board were present including Oklahoma City Police Chief Bill Citty and County Commissioner Willa Johnson.
Jane Crain, Katie James, Nazette Zuhdi-Cleaver were at the event.
Jan Peery, Linda Howard, David Hudiburg and Tricia Everest arrive at the party.
Spring campaign set by YWCA for new shelter for battered women and children
Jan Peery, Lela Sullivan and Kris Frankfurt talk about the YWCA on Parties Extra!
20-40-60 Etiquette—Friending on Facebook?
QUESTION: If you have barely begun dating someone, how do you handle “friending” that person on Facebook? Do you accept a request to be friends immediately, after a few dates or when you’re in a serious relationship?
Can you accept a friend request but then use privacy settings to restrict some of that person’s access to your profile? Basically, I’m trying to figure out if you’re interested in someone but not ready to share your whole Facebook life with them, how do you maintain some distance on Facebook without putting the brakes on the new relationship?
CALLIE’S ANSWER: You are putting SO much thought into this! I would say do what you feel is right. Yes, there are privacy settings to block certain things from people.
Although, what is the point of “friending” the person or “accepting them as a friend” if you can’t do some digging and creeping? If all else fails, just simply don’t “friend them or accept them.“
LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER:Part of the answer depends on how you use Facebook. For many, the social media site has become a catchall for all contacts — ranging from acquaintances to real friends — so adding one more person to your friend list doesn’t have to cause so much consternation. For me, it works better if I limit what I share online anyway so I don’t have to worry about revealing too much or saying something I’d regret if the wrong person saw it.
If you’re not sure whether to “friend” a new dating interest on Facebook, then do nothing and wait and see if they send you a request. If you say “no” to being friends online, then accept that the person may take your move as a general rejection. With privacy settings, you can also secretly restrict some of that person’s access to parts of your profile, like your status updates or even your photos.
I believe in recent weeks Facebook has made things even more complicated so that you can specify who gets to see which status update you post on a case-by-case basis. But who wants to spend that much time micromanaging each post according to each friend? I know I don’t. It’s exhausting enough to decipher the nuances of your friends’ Facebook posts without having to agonize over each thing that you say.
So I’d say be careful about limiting access if you think the relationship has real potential but be mindful of what you share online, especially until you know the person better. If your new relationship ends up going south, then you can quietly unfriend that person later.
HELEN’S ANSWER: Do you accept friends that you don’t know very well on Facebook? If so, probably you are not posting anything that you might consider your utmost private thoughts. I don’t see anything wrong with friending this person immediately. If things don’t work out and you want to “unfriend” this person, do so.
GUEST’S ANSWER, Kate Stanton, Executive Director, Health Sciences Center Student Affairs, The University of Oklahoma, and etiquette consultant: One should always be aware of what they are not only posting and sharing on Facebook, but what settings they have in place to maintain privacy and appropriate self disclosure. For most, becoming “friends” on Facebook is becoming as normal as an initial handshake upon meeting someone. For others, not so much. Like you, I’ve waited to accept a Facebook request of a possible suitor.
Facebook should be that simple and innocent as a mere social media playground. But like any playground, one can get hurt. There is not a problem in the world to set limits, establish barriers, and bring someone into your world – on your timeline. Hopefully your privacy settings are in place just as much as your good judgment is in regards to what you are putting on Facebook.
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Alyson Young and Danny Gilbert are honored at engagement party in Oklahoma City
Steve, Barbara, and Alyson Young, Danny, Laurel, and John Gilbert enjoyed the party. (Photo by David Faytinger).
Alyson Young and Danny Gilbert who will be married in June were honored at an engagement party given by their parents, Barbara and Steve Young and Laurel and John Gilbert in the Young home.
The dads gave toasts to the young couple.
Among the guests were Chris Young, Lindsay and Cole Strickland, Kaylee Howell, Patrick Gilbert, Melissa Ivanhoff, Mia Hartley, Claudia and Jim Robertson, Inda Burchfiel, Patsy and Tom Hosman, Camber Osten, Barbara and Patrick Hill, Tricia and Mike Deason, Susan and Al Salamone, Marcia and Mack Morgan, Brook and Ryan Storer, Hunter Hoehn, Elizabeth Jordan, Collins Peck, Susan and James Fletcher, Donita and Kerry Clapp, Ashleigh and Will Ahrberg, Amber and Mark Cody, Matt Stonecipher, Maris Skinner, Minday, Richard and Doug Nix, Johnson Edwards, Justin Grose, Sarah Tintera, Austen Salamone, Megan Kelly, and Cheryl and Alan Pearson.
Lyric Theater Broadway Ball set for September 30th in Oklahoma City
Susan Chambers and Susan Turpen, Broadway Ball Co-Chairman and Chairman. (Photo provided).
The Lyric Theater’s Broadway Ball is set for September 30th at the Skirvin Hilton Hotel. It begins at 7 p.m. and is the fundraiser for Lyric’s artistic and educational programs.
Susan Turpen is chairman and Susan Chambers is co-chairman. Committee members are Amy Bankhead, Vicki Bumpass, Carolyn Chancellor, Kent Fischer, Betty K. Fletcher, Adrienne Husted, Carol Johnson, Kim Kakish, Beth Kerr, Robin Lister, Paula Love, Christina Rehkop, Rachel Shortt, Stacey Stiglets, Mary Dean Streich, Becky Switzer, Lisa Synar, Kathy Luman, David Thompson, P. Kay Floyd, Beverly Funke, Betsy Jett Gaske, Andrea Gonterman, Erika Huffman, Kathy Luman, Charlotte Mitchell, Debby Nauser, Linda Neira, Meg Newville, Jessica Ockershauser, Teale Trammell, Sandy Trudgeon, Beverly Watts, John Winblad.
Bill Porter will perform selections from his latest CD “At the Corner of Broadway+Soul.” The cast of Altar Boyz will perform songs from the show. There are live and silent auctions, raffle tickets for such items as two passes for the final round of the 2012 Masters Golf Tournament, a year’s supply of Braums Ice Cream, a $1,000 gas gift card and a trip for two to New York City.
There is also an “After Dark” event for the “under 40″ patrons that includes drinks, desserts and dancing.
Go to the Lyric website www.LyricTheatreOKC.com/broadwayball or call the Lyric Office at ( 405) 524-9310 for information.
