Annie Oakley Society members have an Inaugural Luncheon at The National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum
Chuck Schroeder, Gov. Mary Fallin, Lynn Friess and Cathy Keating were on the podium, along with Linda Bouchier and Linda Mitchell Davis. (Photos by Helen Ford Wallace).
Annie Oakley Society members entertained at the inaugural luncheon at The National Cowboy & Western Heritage Museum. Their aim is to annually celebrate women who portray leadership and the entrepreneurial spirit of the West.
(Ret.) Associate Justice of the Supreme Court Sandra Day O’Connor received the first “Annie Oakley Society Award” and Linda Mitchell Davis was presented the ”Lifetime Achievement Award.” Presenters were Chuck Schroeder and Linda Bouchier.
Cathy Keating was chairman of the event and Lynn Friess was vice-chairmen. Tables were covered with vibrant orange or hot pink tablecloths and rose-bedecked chair covers and large nosegays of roses on crystal stands. On the menu was chicken, Shrimp Louis and ambrosia salads from Nonna’s, along with the best chocolate cake in the world, also from Nonna’s.
Annie, a Western legend, had determination and strength of character which helped break barriers for women despite her early struggles in life. Mission for the Society is “to honor and raise awareness of outstanding women in all walks of life who exemplify the character, perseverance and moral fiber in the tradition of Annie Oakley.
Gov. Mary Fallin was a special guest and she talked about the distinguished honorees.
Society members voted on one of several projects to renovate the children’s area of the Museum. Their membership dues were given for this project.
At the event were these guests including Avis Scaramucci, Tricia Everest, Jane Jayroe, Candy Dulaney, Polly and Larry Nichols, Holly Healey, Susan Hoffman, Sue Ann Hyde, Kirk Hammons, Christy Everest, Sue Homsey, Barbara Brou, Susan Johnston, Jan and Robert Henry, Edie Roodman, Martha Bradshaw, Gennie Johnson, Joy Richardson, Sara Northwood, Linda Garrett, Jo Carol Cameron, Rhonda Walters, Lela Sullivan, Terri Cooper and Kris Frankfurt.
Cathy Keating and Lynn Friess were at the luncheon. Keating was chairman and Friess was co-chairman.
Susan Johnston, Kirk Hammons and Judy Love enjoy the roses which decorated the tables.
Sandra Day O’Connor and Linda Mitchell Davis were award winners.
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20-40-60 Etiquette—What should I wear? Signed, the Groom’s Mother
YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE!
QUESTION: The bride requested that the mothers wear short dresses for a 2 p.m. wedding and I am the mother of the groom. I shopped and found the perfect dress and bought it. It was the right color too. Recently, when I visited the mother- of –the- bride, she informed me that she was wearing a long dress to the ceremony and since the reception was later that day and into the night, the dress would be perfect, and she definitely thought I should be wearing a long dress too.
What should I do? Respect the bride’s wishes? Or her mother’s?
CALLIE’S ANSWER: I need more information. Your best bet is to ask the bride, it is her day, and her mom. I do think that both you and the MOB should be wearing the same length dress. Depending on the “shortness” of the dress, both long and short are acceptable.
Needless to say all three of you need to have a little chat.
LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: Traditional wedding etiquette dictates that out of courtesy, the mother of the bride decides first what to wear and then lets the mother of the groom know so that the two don’t clash or upstage one another. I’m guessing that’s what the bride’s mother was trying to do.
However, since the bride already requested short dresses for the 2 p.m. wedding, then it seems like you’ve already done the right thing by respecting the bride’s wishes and proceeding with your apparel plans. If it’s not too late to exchange dresses, then talk to the bride, along with her mother, about where the coordination went off track and go from there. Did the mother decide on her own, apart from the bride? Was their some miscommunication between mother and daughter?
You can’t jump through hoops to please everyone, and it appears you’ve already done your best to honor the star of wedding — the bride. That’s all you can do, so now put on your dress and enjoy the happy occasion.
HELEN’S ANSWER: It is time for a face-to-face meeting with the bride and her mother. Or if that is impossible, then a conference call would be in order. Since you already have your dress, you should be upfront about it. If the plans have changed, maybe you can take the dress back, and exchange it for a long dress. But, everyone needs to be on the same page about the dresses and since afternoon weddings usually dictate short dresses, maybe the mother just decided she would rather wear a long dress and the bride didn’t know about it.
Communication is the key here and hopefully courtesy will prevail. Dress drama between mothers is usually about colors (you know, mothers-in-laws wear beige and keep quiet) but since you had already talked to the bride and thought you had done the right thing, this situation requires some flexibility.
GUEST’S ANSWER: Hilarie Blaney, Etiquette and International Protocol Consultant: I would call your future daughter-in-law and talk to her because it sounds like something has changed, or there is a misunderstanding. I would respect the wishes of the bride.
Callie Gordon, a college junior, was an Oklahoma City 2009 debutante. Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a former debutante and currently the assistant features editor for The Oklahoman. Helen Wallace has written a social column for The Oklahoman for many years and has been on various local Ball committees. Guest is Hilarie Blaney, Etiquette and International Protocol Consultant.
This group does not always agree (via age differences), but they ALL see the need for proper behavior.
Ask a specific etiquette question and you will get three answers…Then you decide for yourself how you would handle the situation. The answers have information for every age range….Callie is 20-ish; Lillie-Beth is 40-something, and Helen is 60-plus.
Please email us with your questions and follow us on Facebook, Twitter and daily blogs. We will try to answer your etiquette questions weekly on the Parties Extra! blog. Sometimes we will ask other people for their opinions.
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Inaugural activities honor new Oklahoma City University President Robert Henry
President Robert Henry and Jan Henry had a busy week at OCU. (Photos by David Faytinger.)
One of the activities surrounding Oklahoma City University President Robert Henry’s inauguration was a dinner in the Henry J. Freede Wellness and Activity Center on the campus. Author and opinion columnist for the New York Times David Brooks was the speaker. He talked on “ Liberal Arts for the Social Animal” and he also signed his newest book “The Social Animal.” A reception was held following his talk at Wilson House.
The inauguration ceremony for Robert Henry was held at 10 a.m. on April 6. President Henry greeted guests in the Leichter Room right after the ceremony. There was also a performance of “The Complete Works of William Shakespeare” in the Burg Theater in the Kirkpatrick Fine Arts Center with a reception at Wilson House. “A Moveable Feast featured a variety of student performances and exhibits across the campus. Students celebrated the president’s birthday during the week. There was also a symposium in the OCU Meinders School of Business and other lectures.
Another activity corresponding with President Robert Henry’s inauguration was the opening of the Kramer School of Nursing. The Vietnam Women’s Memorial Maquette by Glenna Goodacre was dedicated. LaDonna and Herman Meinders were honored.
Gary Homsey, Ann Lacy, Steve Agee attended events at OCU.
Parties Extra!—President’s Ball held at the Oklahoma City Golf and Country Club
Samantha Visnieski, Chuck Ainsworth, Allie Fleischfresser were at the party. (Photo by David Faytinger).
Members of the Oklahoma City Golf and Country Club honored new president, Chuck Ainsworth, and his wife Candy Ainsworth, at a President’s Ball at the Club. 300 members attended the black-tie event.
Chuck Ainsworth welcomed guests and thanked chefs for the gourmet dinner.
The long tables were set with gold tablecloths and topped with tall lights surrounded by flowers including red roses, Gerber daisies, snapdragons and tulips. There was a “Candy’s Sweet Shop” table set up with various candies in boxes for guests to take home. The boxes were printed with “Sweet Dreams from Candy and Chuck.”
Special drinks of vodka and ginger called “The Ains “ were concocted. Wade Tower sang during cocktails and two women with painted-on military uniforms served cocktails. The band was “Inside Out” from Dallas.
Members of the club’s board of directors were on hand for the party. They include Steve Bentley,Tom Stapleton, Mike Nordin, Larry Savage, Greg Wheeler, Ray Potts, Jerry Marshall, Leo Portman, Dudley Hyde, Bud Beeler, Susan Parker and Scott Spradling.
A coffee bar with all the trimmings was set up outside for guests to enjoy as they waited for their cars.
Among those at the party were Cindi and Jay Anthony, Dallas, Tx., Sarah and Paul Meiring, Summit, N.J., Federico Cirri, Florence and Montespertoli, Italy, Cheryl Browne, Linda and Ron James, Susan and Peter Hoffman, Millie and Johnson Hightower, Barbara and Bud Beeler, Christy and Jim Everest, Beth and Ed Wells, Kathy and John Griffin, Karlie and Harvey Harmon, Jeary and Mike Seikel, Barbara Quillian, Katherine and Jim Buxton, Sue and Don Timberlake and Sue and Gary Homsey.
Sue Ann and Dudley Hyde honored by friends
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Dudley and Sue Ann Hyde enjoy the party. (Photos provided).
Sue Ann and Dudley Hyde were honored by friends at an event in Harry’s Bar of the Oklahoma City Golf and Country Club. The honorees were introduced as two of the “Treasures For Tomorrow” by members of the Oklahoma Health Center.
Hosts were Janie and Jon Axton, Gene and Ed Barth, Karen and Bob Browne, Polly and Larry Nichols, Carol and Mac Troy and Kathy and Russ Walker. Theme was “dinner, art and toasts.”
Guests were asked to paint pictures on drinking glasses as a gift to the couple. Artist Suzanne Mears was on hand to assist. Some of the glasses had pictures of a paddle, a kayak, Arts Classic Run, Native American jewelry, hiking, the mountains, OU, New Mexico, Route 66.
On the menu was Chicken Dunigan (an adaptation of steak Dunigan from the Pink Adobe Restaurant in Santa Fe, N.M., a favorite of the Hydes) and Brandy Ices for dessert.
Karen Browne and Corey Hyde were at the event.
20-40-60 Etiquette—Proper toasts at the rehearsal dinner?
YOU ASK! WE ANSWER! YOU DECIDE!
QUESTION: Recently I was at an engagement party for my sister. When the host gave a toast, I felt like I should give one too, but I didn’t because I didn’t know the protocol for toasting. I want to be prepared for the rehearsal dinner, so could you please tell me some tips for toasting. Do I use my wine glass? Water glass? Do I stand up? How long should my toast be? Can I read it?
CALLIE’S ANSWER: When my sister was getting married and I was the maid of honor, my mom bought me a book about toasts and etiquette “how tos.”
There were many different ways you could toast, almost all of them said the maid of honor should say something. I modernized this and gave my toast at the rehearsal dinner. I felt that since her wedding reception was not a sit -down dinner, this would be the best time. Almost everyone gave a toast. Some ad-libbed but I didn’t want to mess up so I read mine. My toast was the longest but it didn’t matter to me, it was for my sister and her husband.
Raise your glass at the end “to the bride and groom” and for sure stand up, people want to see who is talking. You can’t mess up something when you are giving your best wishes. I cherished every moment with my sister during this time… we had so much fun!
LILLIE-BETH’S ANSWER: As long as you’re speaking from the heart, I don’t think it matters whether you use your wine or water glass or whether you read your toast or speak off the cuff. This is your opportunity to give your sister a meaningful send-off into married life. I’d try to keep your toast short, especially if others are to follow, and not tell any off-color stories that would embarrass her in front of friends and family members.
Other than that, toast away, even if you just get up to say briefly how happy you are for the soon-to-be newlyweds and how much you love your sister.
HELEN’S ANSWER: What a wonderful opportunity for you to tell your sister how much she means to you. You can also stand up and talk about the upcoming marriage and include your future brother-in-law in your accolades as well. You can use your wine glass to toast. You can read it or just give a short toast from the heart. You can write a poem. You can enjoy being the sister of the bride. It is a great time for everyone!
GUEST’S ANSWER: Kate Stanton, Executive Director, Health Sciences Center Student Affairs, The University of Oklahoma, and etiquette consultant: Nothing more fun for a couple than to sit and listen to their buddies of life share a funny thought or two on their behalf as they count down the hours to cutting that overpriced cake. With that said, one must remember to keep such thoughts appropriate for grandparents to hear, short enough to get the bride-elect home in time for no puffy eyes, and keep all past loves out of the toast script.
It makes no difference if your method of toasting is an iced tea glass or red wine, but you must stand and hold some glassware to toast. If you must, a small note card is fine for your dear words. Note I said small note card, no toast should be longer than 5 minutes even if you are the funniest soul alive. With a big day the next day for all, keep your words to a minimum and their meaning to the max.
Callie Gordon, a college junior, was an Oklahoma City 2009 debutante. Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a former debutante and currently the assistant features editor for The Oklahoman. Helen Wallace has written a social column for The Oklahoman for many years and has been on various local Ball committees. Guest is Kate Stanton, Executive Director, Health Sciences Center Student Affairs, The University of Oklahoma, and etiquette consultant.
This group does not always agree (via age differences), but they ALL see the need for proper behavior.
Ask a specific etiquette question and you will get three answers…Then you decide for yourself how you would handle the situation. The answers have information for every age range….Callie is 20-ish; Lillie-Beth is 40-something, and Helen is 60-plus.
Please email us with your questions and follow us on Facebook, Twitter and daily blogs. We will try to answer your etiquette questions weekly on the Parties Extra! blog. Sometimes we will ask other people for their opinions.
Look for us!
E-mail us! helen.wallace@cox.net …lbrinkman@opubco.com…calliezok3@aol.com
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Ross Cash and Kirsten Cash, Marcus and Katie Newby, Corey and Michelle Ponder celebrate Kirsten’s, Katie’s, Michelle’s birthdays. (Photo by David Faytinger).
Kirsten Cash, Katie Newby and Michelle Ponder celebrated their 35th birthdays with a party at Crabtown in Bricktown. There was a disc jockey for dancing and a special birthday cake with fondant icing in stripes, polka dots and flowers from Katie’s Cakes.
“You might be a child of the 70s and 80s if…” packets were on the tables. Facts included “…If you ever had a Swatch Watch” or “…if you wore a banana clip in your hair” and “…if you remember getting off the couch to change the television channel.”
There were 70 guests including Shelly and Gant Lambertz, Katelyn and Beau Stephenson, Lauri and Andy Gormley, LaDonna and Phil Giachino, Leslie and Chip Stockel, Stephanie and Hai Bui, Mary Beth and Lane Griffing, Shannon and Dale Gannon, Melissa and Gian Santoro, Heather and Michael McCarthy and Dawn and Todd Hickman.
