Junior League Gallery of Hope Art Show project held in LeNorman home
Artist Kate Schein participated in the Junior League Art Show. (Photos provided).
Junior League of Oklahoma City members were hosts for the Gallery of Hope Art Show in the home of Cory and David LeNorman. The Gallery of Hope is a community project initiated by the JL 2009-10 provisional class. League members collected artwork from Oklahoma City schools and individuals to be scanned on canvas for the halls and patient rooms on the 8th and 9th floors of the Children’s Hospital at the University of Oklahoma Medical Center.
Rejeana Allgood was the project coordinator.
JL President Ann Cameron told the guests about the bond between the hospital and league members. “The Junior League has had a long relationship with Children’s Hospital…since the 1940’s when Mex Frates first appealed to the hospital and convinced them that Junior League women were responsible volunteers who could be counted on, “ she said. “Early on, JLOC volunteers helped at the information desk and later by putting on puppet shows. Today, we continue to provide volunteers who offer literacy- related programs and activities to patients and their families at The Zone at Children’s Hospital.”
Chelsey Cobbs, Erin Byers, Margaret Creighton were at the party.
Cortney Smith and E’Shaina Harned attended the Gallery of Hope Art Show.
Mike Edmison and Rejeana Allgood enjoy the event.
Coming soon….deadCENTER Film Festival. Lots of films and parties
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Office Etiquette? 20-40-60 answers
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Question: I work in a small-ish office space with really great people, but one or two people have some very rude habits like making phone calls on speaker phone (even when they have their own office and could shut the door), shouting a running commentary of their email Inbox/phone calls to everyone (“Uh oh! I just got an e-mail from so-and-so!”; “Guess who’s calling me now?”; “Oh no! My Inbox is full, everyone!”) and lurking around my desk because it’s in the general open area (everyone else has an office) to have long conversations or to mindlessly chit-chat with me when I’m clearly working.
There are other things, but these are my big irritants. I don’t want to be rude and I certainly am not high enough on the ladder to send out a memo or something (not to mention, that’s really not done here and one of the prime offenders is my immediate supervisor).
Do I a) keep my headphones in, grit my teeth and bare it, b) jokingly and casually hint that it’s rude, or c) come right out and tell people they’re driving me nuts? It’s a very relaxed, friendly office and we all have a great time, but I just can not comprehend that people think some of this behavior is appropriate.
Callie’s answer: I can definitely relate to this question, but there are still other offenders higher on the totum pole than you. One option would be to say “hold on a second” and finish your work that you were working on, then “sorry I had to finish that piece, what were you saying?”
The second option is to just keep your head phones in and don’t worry too much about it. Do try to engage in the office banter, when appropriate. You don’t want to be the one who is anti-social or a stick in the mud! Or you could always quit! HA! Good luck!
Lillie-Beth’s answer: It’s hard for people to know that they’re bothering you if you don’t tell them. No one is a mind-reader; you’ll have to be direct with a friendly smile. Most people I know would be apologetic and accommodating (and horrified) if they knew their behaviors were irritating. It sounds like you’re on good terms with everyone as it is.
You can nicely tell your co-workers, privately, something like, “When you do XXX, I have a hard time concentrating. Do you mind shutting the door when you take a call/being a little quieter when discussing your e-mails?” Or you could say, “I’m really swamped right now; let’s talk later.” Don’t embarrass the offender but keep your conversation low-key.
If you’re in a cramped office space, there has to be some give-and-take, so you might have to do a little bit of putting in headphones and gritting your teeth at times. However, most people I know would be happy to reduce the friendly chit-chat or tone down the loud talking if they knew it was disturbing someone else.
Helen’s answer: When you are in close office quarters, it should be a written down rule that people keep the noise level down so others can concentrate and work. Suggest that to your boss, even though he/she is one of the offenders. That just makes good office sense.
Also, since you are very friendly (I know this to be true), probably everyone thinks that you are accessible for talking. Just maintain your good work habits and keep on working even while they are talking. They will get the general idea. You might need to keep the headphones on.
Hilarie Blaney’s answer: I have found that honesty is the best policy. I would choose C, but maybe say to your boss, “I want very much to do a good job and I am really distracted by the office noise, do you have any ideas that could help me?”
Or when the shouting starts, simply stand up and close their doors yourself. Actions speak louder than words. You could easily say, “it sounds like you are really busy with all of those e-mails and calls, so I’ll give you some privacy to return them.” ”This way we can both get some work done.”
As for lurking around your desk, I would also just say, “I would love to talk, but have to get this report finished, can we talk at lunch or after work or once I finish I’ll come into your office.”
(Callie Gordon, a college sophomore, was a 2009 debutante and has been in many new social situations recently. Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a former debutante and currently the assistant features editor for The Oklahoman. Helen Wallace has written a social column for The Oklahoman for many years and has been on various local Ball committees. Hilarie Blaney is an Etiquette and International Protocol Consultant.
This group does not always agree (via age differences), but they ALL see the need for proper behavior.
Ask a specific etiquette question and you will get three answers…Then you decide for yourself how you would handle the situation. The answers have information for every age range….Callie is 20-ish; Lillie-Beth is 40-something, and Helen is 60-plus.
Please email us with your questions and follow us on Facebook, Twitter and daily blogs. We will try to answer your etiquette questions weekly on the Parties Extra! blog. Sometimes we will ask other people for their opinions.
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New Junior League President, Jill Greene, honored at luncheon
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Napkins and glasses were printed with the “Hat’s Off” theme. (Photos by Helen Ford Wallace).
Ann Cameron and Jill Greene enjoy the day.
Chelin Satherlie entertained at a celebration luncheon to honor her daughter-in-law, Jill Greene who is the new president of the Oklahoma City Junior League.
The invitation said “ Hats Off To Jill! …wonderful wife, fabulous mother, terrific friend, generous volunteer and great business women and now wearing a ‘New Hat,’ President of the Junior League of Oklahoma City.” Napkins, glasses and cookies featured the hat design.
Guests dined at tables which were set up outside on the patio and at the entryway and Mary England gave the weather report that the rain showers for the afternoon were over and they were. (Excellent weather reporting).
Guests included Ann Cameron, Lyn Watson, Cristi Rieger, Anne Richmond, Jill Farrand, Kay Oliver, Laurel Hall, Heidi Cohn, Katie James, Karen Luke, Karla Wallace, Christina Nihira, Gayle Semtner, Jeary Seikel, Myrla Pierson, Kirk Hammons, Gennie Johnson, Judy Love, Nancy Ellis, Sharon Bozalis, Linda Rodgers, Kris Frankfurt, Beth Wells, Martha Bradshaw, Sally Bentley, Karen Luke, Laurie Hyde, Lee Ann Nordin, Leslie Russell.
Guests had lunch outdoors.
Christina Nihira and Jeary Seikel have fun at the party.
Lee Ann Nordin, Myrla Pierson and Gayle Semtner were among the Junior League past presidents at the party.
Jill Greene and Ann Cameron are greeted by the hostess Chelin Satherlie.
Dessert…Cookies decorated with hats.
Libby and Morton Payne celebrate her birthday
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Pete Everest, Linda James, Libby Payne and Shirley Everest were at Libby Payne’s birthday party. (Photos by Helen Ford Wallace).
Libby and Morton Payne invited friends to their home to celebrate her birthday. Beautiful flowers…some roses, peonies and magnolias from their lovely yard…decorated the house.
Cocktails and hors d’oeuvres were served to guests inside and outside the house.
Guests included Mary Moran, Margo Ward, Betty Lou Stewart, Sue and Don Timberlake, Susan Parker, Drew Neville, Christy and Jim Everest, Linda James, Barbara and Bud Beeler, Shirley and Pete Everest, Candy and Chuck Ainsworth, Susan and Pat Sigmon, Susan and John Dobson, Nick Berry, Betsy Hyde, Kathy and John Griffin and Susan and Mike McPherson.
Mary Payne Moran and Margo Ward celebrate.
Hors d’oeuvres were served at the party.
Susan and Mick McPherson and Betty Lou Stewart were at the party.
What’s Cooking?
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Sheli Adler and Debbie Davis were on a NewsOk webcast and brought cookies, chocolate sheet cake, pumpkin bread and banana pudding to show the viewers. (Photos by Helen Ford Wallace).
When Sheli Adler and Debbie Davis of What’s Cooking Catering came in the NewsOk offices recently for a webcast, they brought some party tips and one of their favorite recipes for pumpkin bread.
Here are the Catering Party Tips: 1. Be careful about having too many hosts and hostesses for your parties. Feelings can get hurt if there are too many chiefs and not enough workers, especially when you really don’t know each other. Personalities can clash. 2. Have the guest or guests of honor not stand at the front door, because traffic will stop. Have them where you want the party to be…outside, cabana, living room. 3. For appetizers, always have a fork, unless it is finger sandwiches or something like cheese and crackers. 4. Always make sure your house can accommodate the number of people invited, particularly if there is a weather change. 5. Oklahoma wind does not cooperate with using balloons as centerpieces outside. 6. Service staff is well worth the money. The hosts have great intentions of helping, but they get busy with guests, and don’t have time to help. 7. Food is better served in one place instead of all over the house.
What’s Cooking Pumpkin Bread:
2 2/3 c. flour
3 c. of sugar
2 t. soda
1 t. cinnamon
1 t. nutmeg
1 1/2 t. salt
4 eggs, beaten
1 c. oil
2 c. pumpkin
2/3 c. water
Mix all the dry ingredients together in one bowl and mix all the wet ingredients together in another bowl. Then combine together and pour into large loaf pan (9x5x3) and bake at 350 degrees for 50 minutes.
Dave Morris, Video Director of NewsOk, gets the cameras set up for the webcast.
Owner Sheli Adler gets the food ready for a party.
The What’s Cooking Catering staff sets up the deli for the day.
Early American Glass Club features beautiful tables at guest day luncheon in Oklahoma City
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Linda Haneborg, Johnna Kirschner and Judy Brockett talk on Parties Extra! about the Early American Glass Club luncheon.
Can I ask friends for a birthday donation? 20-40-60 answers
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Dear 20-40-60:
I love your article in the newspaper. My question is: I am having a BIG birthday party this fall and plan to have an open house and invite between 75-100 people! I have everything under the sun and really don’t want any gifts.
What I would like to do on the invitation, is ask people if they would like to donate to a Church Project in Haiti or to a medical Foundation that I am a member of. How do I accomplish this and/or what do you suggest?
Thanks in advance for your response.
Callie’s answer: What a great idea! When you are having the invitations made up, state “In lieu of gifts please bring a small (or big) donation to….” The professionals helping you with the invitations will, I’m sure, have some great ideas. Keep it light and fun because it is a party! Happy Birthday!
Lillie-Beth’s answer: This is a tough question to answer: It sounds like your birthday party isn’t supposed to be a fundraiser but yet you want people who would ordinarily give you a gift to spend the money for you in a meaningful way for a good cause. So how do you approach the delicate money subject, keeping etiquette in mind?
One idea would be to then include in the party invitation a separate enclosure card that reads something like, “To celebrate my birthday this year, I’m supporting XX Church project in Haiti and YY Medical Foundation. Since I have been blessed with so much, including your friendship, and don’t need anything for my birthday, I’d love for you to join me for in giving to these great causes. Here are the addresses for XX and YY and websites for more information if you’re interested.”
To me, this approach gives your friends a way to honor you on your birthday but takes the pressure off because it doesn’t require that they give to your charities in order to celebrate with you. The last thing you want to do is make your guests uncomfortable at your party. (i.e. What if they didn’t support XX or YY or had already gone over budget in this area?)
On the other hand, it’s a nice gesture when friends who care for you want to show it in a way that means something to you, such as giving to your favorite causes in your name.
Helen’s answer: I think it is ok to put on the invitation: “In lieu of a gift, please bring or make a donation to the Church project which I support.” It is like any gift, guests will take that under consideration and either make the donation, bring it to you to make the donation or conveniently forget.
Since it is your birthday, you can make the call where the donation goes because your friends will want to give that money in your honor. Remember if your friends don’t want to give to that particular charity or if they have one they like better, they will probably handle it in their own way.
If they bring you a gift anyway, be gracious in your acceptance because it is still lovely to be remembered by friends.
Joe Hight’s answer: I commend you for wanting your guests to give to good causes instead of bringing presents to you. Think what a $10, $20, $25 or even $50 donation multiplied 75 to 100 times could do for a charity instead of gifts that you may return or can’t use.
However, some people still like to buy cards or gifts instead of giving to specific causes or may feel uncomfortable in fulfilling your request. So be subtle and polite in your approach. A notation such as this might be appropriate: “I prefer not to receive gifts for my birthday, just your presence at my party. If you so choose to honor me, please make a donation to … .” You might give them the charities’ website addresses for more information or to make it as easy as possible to give in your name.
Then be sure to follow up with a thank you card when your charities do receive donations — or even if someone forgets or doesn’t read the entire invitation and buys you a gift anyway. A notation that someone has “made a difference” will help the next time they’re asked to make donations instead of buying presents.
Callie Gordon, a college sophomore, was a 2009 debutante and has been in various new social situations recently. Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a former debutante and currently the assistant features editor for The Oklahoman. Helen Wallace has written a social column for The Oklahoman for many years and has been on local Ball committees. Joe Hight is Director of Information and Development for The Oklahoman.
This group does not always agree (via age differences), but they ALL see the need for proper behavior.
Ask a specific etiquette question and you will get three answers…Then you decide for yourself how you would handle the situation. The answers have information for every age range….Callie is 20-ish; Lillie-Beth is 40-something, and Helen is 60-plus.
Please email us with your questions and follow us on Facebook, Twitter and daily blogs. We will try to answer your etiquette questions weekly on the Parties Extra! blog. Sometimes we will ask other people for their opinions.
Look for us! We are also in MOOD in Thursday’s Oklahoman and MOOD online.
helen.wallace@cox.net…lbrinkman@opubco.com… calliezok3@aol.com
Children’s Wellness Award presented to Dr. John Bozalis in Oklahoma City
Jay Bozalis and his grandfather, Dr. John Bozalis, were at the event honoring Dr. Bozalis where he received the Children’s Wellness Award. (Photos provided).
Dr. John R. Bozalis was honored recently with the first annual Childrens Wellness Award. The event was at the Oklahoma City Museum of Art. The Schools for Healthy Lifestyles and the Oklahoma Allergy and Asthma Clinic presented Bozalis with the award for his outstanding efforts to help make Oklahoma’s children the healthiest in the nation.
Bozalis was responsible for the creation of Schools for Healthy Lifestyles which began in 1997. SHL has grown from 8 elementary schools in Oklahoma City and is currently serving 52 schools across the state. He has served as the president of the nonprofit organization since its inception.
Bozalis is a physician at the Oklahoma Allergy & Asthma Clinic and has been there since 1973. He is also currently the Clinical Professor of Medicine at the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center.He received his medical degree from the University of Oklahoma College of Medicine and completed post-doctoral training in internal medicine at Henry Ford Hospital in Detroit, Michigan.
He completed his sub-specialty training in allergy and clinical immunology at the University of Michigan. He is a fellow of the American Academy of Allergy, Asthma and Immunology, and also of the American College of Allergy, Asthma and Immunology, the American College of Chest physicians, and the American College of Physicians. He is board certified in Internal Medicine and Allergy and Immunology.
The honoree is also a member of the Oklahoma County Medical Society, the Oklahoma State Medical Association and the American Medical Association.
Dr. Ramona Paul was the event master of ceremonies and Nancy and Dr. Bob Ellis were honorary chairmen of the event. Dr. Bozalis received an original framed picture from students at Fillmore Elementary where Dr. Bozalis serves as the “Adopt-A-Doc.”
Dr. John Bozalis received an original framed picture from students at Fillmore Elementary.
Dr. Ramona Paul, Dr. John R. Bozalis, and Dr. Robert and Nancy Ellis were at the event.
The dance troupe from the Stanley Hupfeld Academy performed at the event.
Dinner in Oklahoma City concludes with fireworks display
Charles Bethea, Meredith Brown, Rand Wrighton, Marilyn Bethea were at the wedding shower and dinner for Brown and Wrighton in the home of Johnel and Frank Harrison. (Photos by Helen Ford Wallace).
A tabletop shower and seated dinner honored Meredith Brown and Rand Wrighton. It was in the home of Johnel and Frank Harrison. Co-hosts were Christa and John Chain, Paula and Neil Glass, Barbara and Alan Hollingsworth, Nancy and Kim Kimberling, Tom Knott, Jamie and Dan Reineke, Margaret and Fred Ringwald, Debbie and Bubba Symes, Betty and Bud Townsend, Sandy and Jon Trudgeon, Chris and Jidge Verity and Harriet Weirich.
A big tent housed the tables set in the backyard. Heaters were set up and the trees sparked with twinkling lights.
Hosts cooked the dinner, served it and were bartenders for the wines. Eight of the couples brought their china and silver to set the tables. Jeff Woods sang during the party.
A note card was at each place with questions to add for a collection of with and wisdom for the engaged couple including “ A perfect weekend is…”; The best part of marriage is…”; “ a decidedly dumb thing to is….”, and “a genius romantic idea is…”
When the dessert was served, chocolate mousse and champagne, a fireworks display went off on the grounds beyond the tented area.
Among the guests were Ranell and Steve Brown, Marty and Robert Margo, Ann and Burns Hargis, Jane and Sandy Elliott, Marilyn and Charles Bethea, Becky and Brad Johnston, Mary and Bill Price, Nancy and Tim Leonard, Ann and Zane Fleming, Nancy and Joe Bradley, Sandy and Eddie Shapard, Virginia and Barney Brown, Dianne and Denver Meacham and Susie and Matt Wilson.
Burns and Ann Hargis were at the dinner party and couple’s shower.
Sandy Elliott and Ranell Brown talk at the party.
Shower gifts were set on the stairs.
