Casady School sets Book Fair events
Betty Jane Garrett, Jana Bright and Susan Eckman talk about the 2010 Casady School Book Fair which is Feb. 19th. The preview party is Feb. 18th.
Wedding features cake shaped like University of Oklahoma Gaylord Family Oklahoma Memorial Stadium
This groom’s cake was shaped like University of Oklahoma Gaylord Family Oklahoma Memorial Stadium. (Photo from the Alumni Association newsletter.)
Here is a special groom’s cake from the wedding reception of University of Oklahoma students Allison Beall and Mark Chandler.
The wedding was in New Year’s Eve in Ft. Worth. Texas.
Allison graduated from OU with a degree in journalism and is now at the OU Law School. Mark Chandler graduated from OU with a degree in zoology and biomedical sciences and is now a fellow student at the OU Medical School.
The reception (and the cake) was at the Ft. Worth Club.
Another view of the cake. (Photo from Michael Purcell’s cell phone.)
Cake in Ft. Worth, Texas. (Photo from the Alumni Association newsletter.)
Great cake, great wedding. (Photo from the OU Alumni Association newsletter.)
Molly Wizenberg was in town for a book signing party and student workshop
Bebe MacKellar, Molly Wizenberg, Fanny Bolen, Toni Wizenberg were at the reception. (Photo by David Faytinger).
Casady School graduate Molly Wizenberg, author, columnist, photographer and blogger, was honored at a Reception and Book Signing party in Calvert Hall on the Casady School campus. This event was part of activities related to the upcoming Book Fair. She also conducted writer’s workshops for the Casady students.
The public was invited to the party which featured Wizenberg’s best selling book, “A Homemade Life: Stories and Recipes from my Kitchen Table.” She also signed her book.
The Book Fair Preview night is Feb. 18 at the Grantham-Griffing Field House, South Gym. The Book Fair is Feb. 19th from 9 a.m. until 5 p.m.
Jana Bright and Susan Eckman are co-chairmen for the Book Fair.
Mary Ann Johndrow is hostess for mystery dinner in the home of Susan and Kyle Chambers
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Valerie Naifeh, Gina Bennett, Maryann Johndrow, Lori Tyler
, front; Megan Moore, Laura Watts, Emily McCann
, middle, Sheryl Pribyl, Theresa Bozalis, Jana Evans, back, were at the dinner in the home of Susan and Kyle Chambers. Photos provided.
Mary Ann Johndrow purchased a Mystery Dinner at the Go Red event last year. She was hostess to friends in the home of Susan and Kyle Chambers.
Valerie Naifeh and Laura Watts won the mystery game which was set up like a clue game in various rooms of the house.
Kyle Chambers told the history about his home (the former Dolese mansion) which is located in Crown Heights and Susan Chambers served dinner and appetizers that she cooked herself including salmon with salsa, beef tenderloin, brandy ice in chocolate goblets.
Gina Bennett and Megan Moore were at the party.
Jana Evans, Lori Tyler, Megan Moore, Gina Bennett, Maryann Johndrow looked for mystery dinner clues during the evening.
Rhonda Bratton and Maryann Johndrow were at the event.
First ever “Valentine Event” at the Paseo Arts District
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Sandy Martin and Lori Oden talk about the Paseo Romantic Gallery Walk.
Oklahoma City Panhellenic members name 2010 Women of the Year
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Seventeen women have been announced as recipients of the Women of the Year for the Oklahoma City Alumnae Panhellenic Association. They will be honored April 7th at the Panhellenic’s only fundraiser and luncheon at the Oklahoma City Golf and Country Club.
The 2010 Women of the Year were chosen because they embody the ideals of scholarship, leadership and service which panhellenic women have promoted for hundreds of years.
This year’s honorees are: Kim Croy Wallace ( Alpha Chi Omega,) Connie Cook (Alpha Delta Pi,) Susan Adair (Alpha Gamma Delta,) Diana Busch Hartley (Alpha Phi,) Heather Kohler Patzer (Alpha Xi Delta,) Allison Hodges Calhoun (Chi Omega,) Kim Kerrick Mullins (Delta Delta Delta,) Theresa Walkup (Delta Gamma,) Donna Niemann Brown (Delta Zeta,) Annette Basey (Gamma Phi Beta,) Tamara Hermen (Kappa Alpha Theta,) Patsy Seal George (Kappa Delta,) Anne Kraft Gray (Kappa Kappa Gamma,) Elda Bowen Davis (Phi Mu,) Mary Kay Polley Bullard (Pi Beta Phi,) Brooke Boyd Brown ( Sigma Kappa,) Joan Kulbeth Smith (Zeta Tau Alpha.)
Last year with proceeds from the luncheon and financial assistance of businesses and individuals, the Panhellenic Foundation gave seventeen $1,500. scholarships to metro area senior girls.
Tickets are $35. and reservations can be made for mailing checks to the Treasurer at Greater OKC Alumnae Panhellenic, 11416 Shasta Lane, OKC, 73162.
How do I “unfollow”? 20-40-60 answers
Parties Extra!…20-40-60 Question…from a NewsOk reader.
YOU ASK…WE ANSWER…YOU DECIDE
QUESTION: I recently “blocked” a Twitter request to follow me. I felt really bad because I knew the person. Was that rude? How do you handle “blocking” and “unfollowing” on Twitter and “unfriending” on Facebook? Should I write an apology note?
Callie’s Answer: Well, yes that is rude, but there is only so much you can do. If you really feel like you want to block or unfriend someone, there is no need for the awkward apology.
What would you say?, “I don’t want to be your friend anymore.” NO! Just do it and leave it alone, if they ask, play the dumb card.
Lillie-Beth’s Answer: It depends on how you use both Facebook and Twitter, but by nature, Twitter is more open than Facebook and less personal. I think it’s fine to “block” someone on Twitter that’s posting obscene or inappropriate tweets that make you feel uncomfortable. For someone normal (not a stalker, spammer or prostitute) who is following you, “blocking” so they can never find you again is a little extreme. On Twitter, it’s OK to stop following them if their posts are dragging down your feed for any reason — too many, not local, too promotional, not relevant, etc. People drop in and out of follow/friend lists often on Twitter.
As for Facebook, which usually involves real-life friends, I’ve written an apology note before, when I’ve unfriended friends that I cared about but had good reasons not to connect with them on Facebook. That’s not easy. I’ve also had a twinge of anguish when I’ve decided to “unfriend” people quietly, without explanation, after realizing I didn’t know them or didn’t want them to know that much about me. One good rule on Facebook is to decide what you’re using the service for (is it for staying in touch with close friends, networking, reconnecting, meeting people?) and accept close friends, friends, acquaintances or strangers accordingly. Once you’ve “friended” them, they know whatever you choose to share on Facebook, although the last time I checked, you can set levels of privacy for individual friends if you want to.
As always, I’m careful what I post on both Twitter and Facebook, knowing that anyone at anytime can cut and paste my status updates or find out what I’ve said. Once it’s posted, the elusive Internet has your information for good or bad.
Helen’s Answer: When I first started twittering, I blocked someone whom I did not know from following me. This person worked at my company. She was not happy about it and twittered all over the place about the slight. I felt terrible.
Now, I use a personal guideline when I have to “unfollow” someone or “block” him and always put this sentence on Twitter before I do it: “ In the interest of removing clutter, I have to cut the people I follow, and who follow me, down to specific twitters. Sorry if I removed you, nothing personal.”
Alan Herzberger (@aherz on Twitter) This is tricky. You definitely have the right to handle your social media accounts any way you see fit. However, most people that are regularly engaged with Twitter consider it to be a place for open dialogue among a social media community. They have found you interesting enough to care what you are thinking or doing or writing. They’re willing to let your posts into their stream.
So, from that point of view, it’s considered a rude action to block them from finding you interesting. Personally, I don’t block people from following me, because I know my profile is open for anyone to see anyway. However, I don’t necessarily follow everyone that happens to follow me, and I know that others I choose to follow don’t always return the favor. That’s their choice, and I’m not offended.
In short, I recommend unfollowing, not blocking, to keep you social media reputation in tact.
(Callie Gordon, a college sophomore, is a debutante this year and has been in many new social situations recently. Lillie-Beth Brinkman is a former debutante and currently the assistant features editor for The Oklahoman. Helen Wallace has written a social column for The Oklahoman for many years and has been on various local Ball committees. Guest opinion is from Alan Herzberger, digital managing editor for NewsOk.
This group does not always agree (via age differences), but they ALL see the need for proper behavior.)
Ask a specific etiquette question and you will get three answers…Then you decide for yourself how you would handle the situation. The answers have information for every age range….Callie is 20-ish; Lillie-Beth is 40-something, and Helen is 60-plus.
Please email us with your questions and be sure to follow us on Facebook, Twitter and daily blogs. We will try to answer your etiquette questions weekly on the Parties Extra! blog. Sometimes we will ask other people for their opinions.
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Oklahoma City Junior League members work on history project
Samonia Meredith and Beth Wells report to Junior League members. (Photo by David Faytinger).
A committee of Junior League members has been meeting since last June to focus on projects and events during the decades since 1929 (the year they joined the national group of Junior League) .
They are reviewing seven focus areas: Aid, Arts, Advocacy, Children and Families, Education, Health,Literacy. They met recently at JL Headquarters and used a “smart board” to add information to the general outline.
The project will be an interactive kiosk exhibit at the History Center. It will highlight JL history and how it has impacted women and the community. Project Chairmen are Samonia Meredith and Beth Wells.
Oklahoma City Kappas and Pi Phis celebrate their founding at Monmouth College
The table had key and arrow cookies and flower decorations. (Photo provided).
Members of the Kappa Kappa Gamma and Pi Beta Phi sorority alumni groups met in the home of Susan Drake to celebrate their joint founding at Monmouth College in Manmouth, Ill. Co-hostesses were Amy Edwards, Kathy Brown and Casey Williams.
Flower-covered keys for the Kappas and arrows for the Pi Phis (keys and arrows are sorority symbols) were hanging from the dining room chandelier. They were covered in lime green and hot pink mums, pink stock and light blue hydrangeas. The centerpiece was a flower-bedecked cake on a white stand. The cake featured flowers used for the keys and arrows and pink and white roses, white orchids and pink tulips. Sugar cookies were in the shape of keys and arrows.
Among the people at the party were Marilyn Meade, Mary Ann Haskins, Anne Gray, Judy Worsham, Jan Smith, Kay Smith, Beth Hammack, Margo Ward, Whitney Moss, Erin Nation, Dena Keel, Carole McClendon, Kay Goebel, Ramona Paul, Kay Salyer, Elizabeth Miller, Donna Lawrence, Kay Bass, Kitty Champlin, Betsy Hyde, Joanna Champlin, Betty Huckabay, Patti Leeman, Chris Verity, Lu Garrison, Mary Kay Bullard, Ann Cameron, Betty Crow, Betsy Daugherty, Janie Law and Betty Jo Law.
Keli Segell, Kelley Meacham, Traci Blanks, Tana Sanger and Diane Sanger were at the meeting of the Kappa Kappa Gammas and Pi Beta Phis. (Photo by David Faytinger).
20-40-60…We got mail!
Callie, Lillie-Beth and I have received five e-mail letters about 20-40-60. Here they are, unsigned, with links to the particular columns.
1. “20-40-60. Your answers are outstanding! All of them are great! I forwarded it to my husband and we decided we have a new plan of attack. We need to set boundaries – politely. I guess we were maybe too intimidated to do that, but I think you all are right. Better late than never! And I love the suggestion to put them to work!
“Thanks for answering my question!”
20-40-60 column posted on Parties Extra! blog on Jan. 21, 2010 
2. “Hello – 20-40-60 Etiquette Gurus
“Here is a little point of interest that has endured time in the hospital setting (I was instructed when I began working at OUHSC. ) Doctors are always addressed by their colleagues, assistants and patients as “Doctor”. When addressing the boss in front of a client or patient it would be very impertinent to call him/herby their first name.
“It would might imply to others that the two individuals were on a more personal basis and not all business. You do not speak to doctors in the halls unless they speak to you first. ( that old ‘don’t speak until called upon’).
“These seemingly old fashioned rules are in fact ( as told to me ) important to maintain the serious nature of hospital business.”
20-40-60 column posted on Parties Extra! on Jan. 13, 2010
“I was in your journalism class at Northeast in 1966. The Norseman Scroll was fun to produce, and you were a great instructor. I was a sophomore that year.
“So, here we are some 44 years later. Being 59-and-a-half right now, I’ve been considering myself 60ish. They say 60 is the new 40, you know.
“My etiquette predicament? Should I nudge the former teacher and suggest she might be more 70ish? Am I way off base? Just wondering.”
(Helen’s answer from the 60 of 20-40-60…..this is my decade birthday year and maybe I can be 60-plus forever. Works for me.)
4. “Helen. Although I was not in a sorority at the University of Arkansas, my years there were during the waning years of “Gracious Living.”
“During my freshman year in Fulbright Hall and sophomore and junior years at Carnall Hall (much like a sorority due to its physical stature and number of residents – about 75), we were given rules – including the one about salt, cutting hamburgers, no eating of ice, etc.
“We had sitdown meals at Fulbright, Monday-Thursday evenings and sitdown meals for Sunday lunch at Carnall (I don’t think we had them during the week).
“My senior year was at a coed dorm — or what passed for coed in 1967 (girls in one building, guys in another, with a cafeteria in between)….a long way from “Gracious Living.” I am now amazed at the unquestioning manner in which we accepted those rules – and the guys in their dorms had none! I was part of the last group of U of A girls that would receive a call-down if the salt wasn’t passed correctly.
“I recently came across a printed list of those rules from my 2 years in Carnall. Today’s college girls would think they’re fiction.”
20-40-60 column posted on Parties Extra! blog on Feb.3, 2010
5. “Lillie-Beth, I enjoyed yesterday’s 20/40/60 column regarding salt and pepper etiquette.
In my Job Search Toolkit workshops, I relate a story about a hiring manager who conducted second job interviews during breakfast or lunch meetings.
He observed candidates decisions to salt their meal before tasting it. How could candidates know if salt was needed before tasting? Would these candidates make business decisions before gathering all the facts? Did the hiring manager eliminate a candidate on seasoning food before tasting, I don’t know.
However, many details factor into a hiring decision. Again, I love the 20/40/60 column.”
20-40-60 column posted on Parties Extra! blog on Feb.3, 2010:)
