We struggle with detaching from our addicted children, even when we know it is in our best interest as well as our child’s.
I think it’s the loss of the dreams we had for our children that we can’t let go of. After all, we work so hard to provide our children with a successful future.
We wanted to be there and witness their achievements and life success. But that’s all gone now; it will never happen and we just can’t accept it.
Every parent eventually will detach from the addicted child. The pain eventually will be too great to bear and that forces us into change. The path is always different for each parent but all will experience the same pain.
The change usually begins with anger. It has been said that anger is the result of expectations not being met. It is also the first motivator to established a parent’s personal boundaries which results in the change process.
The next step is reaching out to support groups and finding others who understand and who will support the parent through the change process.
So begins the journey to recovery for the parents and what lies ahead for each one is peace, sanity and serenity.