The parent of an addicted child lives with unexplainable emotional pain. The only way to deal with this pain is to take the love for your child to a new level.
As I look back over the many battles I have encountered with my child and the disease of addiction, I can see small pieces of myself strewn over the numerous battlefields. The years of combat against an enemy that can not be defeated, a war that never ends took a tremendous toll on me.
I could only seek a truce as the enemy is known for never keeping its word. Still, helplessly, I was forced to watch the disease of addiction progress until my child was completely taken from me. All my hopes and dreams for him were eaten away.
I learned to grieve the loss just as one would if their loved one had physically passed away. I learned acceptance of my new reality, what I now call my new normal which has been a journey of fifteen years. I am still a work in progress.
We enter this battlefield with little to protect us and there are no reinforcements. We are alone and frightened as the army of addiction surrounds us and eventually forces us to surrender. We seek and need the support of others fighting this battle and learn to accept their love and compassion. We learn the healing help of returning that compassion to other parents experiencing the same pain.
Even though the pain never goes away completely, releasing the child with love and trusting in God’s healing power and peace will make it bearable. This is the greatest love of all.
Please pray for all parents of addicted children.