A face behind a case
About 40 years ago, Carol Alexander left her best friend behind at the corner store and never had a chance to play with her again.
Alexander, now 47 and married with a different last name, wrote to The Oklahoman in early July to remind us about Judith Elwell and Alexander’s friend, Brenda White.
She wanted to make sure we didn’t forget, because she never has.
“I realize I am not a family member,” Alexander wrote, “but I have never let go of Brenda. Not for a moment. It is eating away at me like a cancer. Hers was the first funeral I ever attended, and I didn’t even know what death was.
“I just knew Brenda would never be coming home again, and we would never play Barbie dolls again. I have never touched another Barbie doll since that morning.”
Because of Alexander’s e-mail, we had the opportunity to meet Brenda’s parents and see how their lives have changed as a result of the 1967 tragedy. We got to put the case before you again.
“There’s not a day that we don’t think about her and the life she could have had and the children she could’ve had and see her brothers and sisters going forward with their lives,” said Connie White, Brenda’s mother.
Bobby White, Brenda’s father, doesn’t dare say what he’d like to do to the person who stole his daughter and killed her. He doesn’t want to curse.
Even now, so many decades later, the lost little girls are still missed.
“I would like to make a final plea,” Alexander wrote, “to the conscience of the man who killed both girls, or the men who killed each girl, that you may find God’s forgiveness in your hearts and let the families and friends have some closure with your confession. … You have lived with these acts in your heart every day of your life, as we have lived with the losses.
“If you are already imprisoned, then what have you got to lose? Drop it from your shoulders and get it off your chest so you may find peace with your maker one day and allow the rest of us the peace we deserve, too.”
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i am very sorry for your loss, i can feel the pain in these stories. i do want to provide some thoughts that might help. first, i would identify the owners of the land and home where brenda was found. i agree with the analyst that it was probably somebody who knew that area. the landowners could help identify family members or friends that are familiar with that area. second, i would map out a 10 mile area from midwest city. it sounds like he lived in that area and try to track down any criminal charges of guys who lived in that area for about 2 years prior to the abduction. you can find this information at the oklahoma county court clerks office, but it will take some time to research. third, i would look for somebody who is a loner or has prior military service that ended from a dishonorable discharge or medical discharge. i will keep trying to think of ideas to help. again, im so sorry for your loss.
CAROL, IF YOU READ THIS. WILL YOU PLEASE CONTACT ME ,I AM “BRENDA WHITES” COUSIN I REALLY NEED TO SPEAK TO YOU ,I AM A RETIRED INVEST, AND I WILL NOW DEVOTED MY TIME TO FIND OUT WHO TOOK ARE “LITTLE GIRL” YOU MAY CONTACT ME AT ..no_news_82_okc@yahoo.com THANK YOU REBECCA
O.LOGE, WHO ARE YOU? DO YOU HAVE A REAL NAME OR ,AN E-MAIL ADDRESS THAT I COULD HAVE .MAYBE YOU COULD HELP ME IN MY SEARCH.. I HOPE YOU MEANT IT WHEN YOU SAID YOU COULD FEEL ARE PAIN, IF YOU DO ,THEN WE NEED YOUR HELP WE NEED ANYONE AND EVERY ONE WILLING TO HELP US , PLEASE LEAVE ME AN E-MAIL ADDRESS .THANKS REBECCA
Although I never knew Brenda White, Carol Alexanders mother often told us the story while growing up in Midwest City, OK. As a child I had thought this was a ghost story. Never did I dream this really happened to a little girl the same age as all of us. Thank you for enlightening me. I hope one day with modern technology they can find this killer.